Every one desperately trying to fit, fit into something or someones ideas of what they believe is right…. or not. Watching my girls grow and watching society on its everlasting evolution. I see how we have come full circle. At one time this country fought to be individualized and stand for what they believed. We have slowly evolved from being here in America, a free country, for the right to pray to our God freely and openly, to trying to be socially acceptable. To be just like everyone else. Same thoughts, views, hair, car, home, and the music we listen too.
I see my youngest daughter judging life on how many likes she gets on an Instagram photo or not being able to go to school with out make -up and shes 14! Trust me I have monitored the phone usage and the texting and she does not even have a Facebook yet, but it is inevitable in this day an age. She will be connected to some social networking. Its kind of sad seeing my beautiful daughter and her cute friends all competing with each others trends and or social status at school or how many instagram followers they have acquired. Yes, I’m sure this has been going on for years, but it is now posted for the world to see and I feel like we are creating miniature clones. They are so scared to be themselves in fear of being the “oddball’, the “eccentric” or the “flake”.
I have watched my oldest daughter fight to find herself, to find a place she was socially acceptable. It hurts my heart and soul watching her over the past few years of high school looking for her “fit”. Well she finally found, what I would call, the misfits. I am extremely disappointed in her friend choices. These so called misfits don’t seem to have the same goals or values on life that I have tried to instill upon my daughter for the past 18 years. WHAT?
What am I saying? My daughter has not conformed to society and I’m disappointed? She is still going to college and looking to be a productive member of society, that’s what she says. She graduated from high school Cum Laude.
Soooo… I’m upset because these misfits may not want to dress like all the other girls or stand up straight or wear make up and take photo after photo to post on the internet? The misfits like to hang out at the skate park, smoke cigarettes and live a more simple life. My sweet daughter wears flannel shirts and converse high tops, why am I disappointed? Shes still moving forward in life and is where she should be as an 18 year old girl.
Pondering over these misfits, I look over at the mini-instagram cloned, social network junkie I call Cloie, asking her to please leave the phone for a while and connect with human beings. Ummm …what’s wrong with this picture? Do I want my daughter to be socially acceptable or a misfit? I must add, since my oldest daughter has moved out I have been re -tracing, re-thinking, and second guessing all of my parenting over the years. Feeling guilty that she is now what society labels a misfit.
WHAT IS A MISFIT ~ http://www.thefreedictionary.com/MISFITS
I started thinking about a picture of my family the day of Gaby’s senior graduation… a group picture, that’s when it hit me. We are all just a bunch of misfits trying to fit! Fit into something. Fit into the family, a job, a school, even a social network. In the family photo I know each persons story, each persons struggles, strengths and the growth they achieved with them.
HaHaHa.. I am probably the biggest misfit of all!! I love my girls and I hope they learn from their struggles and strengths too.